2013年7月4日

經典八問

孩子犯錯了,不用批評,只要和孩子講八句話就可以了2013-5-28 05:56 閱讀(23) 轉

孩子長大的過程中,免不了會遇到各種問題。作為家長這時不要急著插手,可以先問孩子八個問題,聽聽他們有什麼想法。而往往問不到幾個問題,事情就已經很清楚並得到解決了。家長不妨可以一試。
第一個問題是:“發生什麼事情了?”
這個問題看起來不起眼,但是非常重要。許多成人碰到突發狀況時,會習慣性的太快下判斷:“一定是你先打他,他才會打你。”“一定是你做錯事,老師才會處罰 你。”如果我們不讓孩子從他的角度說說事情的經過,很可能冤枉孩子。況且,讓孩子有機會說話,即使真的是他的錯,他也會因為有機會為自己辯解而比較甘心認 錯。
第二個問題是:“你的感覺如何?”
事情經過是客觀事實,當事人心裡受到的衝擊純然是主觀的感受,無所謂是非對錯。很多時候,我們只是需要把自己的感受說出來而已。一旦說出來,哭一哭,罵一 罵,心情就會好多了。腦科學研究表明,當一個人情緒強烈的時候,外在刺激不容易被腦部吸收。也就是說,當一個人還有情緒的時候,別人說什麼他都會聽不進 去。總要等到他心情平靜下來,才可能冷靜思考。所以如果我們希望孩子能夠聽得進去我們的意見,我們就需要先同理他的感情,讓他的情緒有個出口。
孩子夠冷靜之後,可以問他第三個問題:“你想要怎樣?”
這時不管孩子說出什麼驚人之語,先不要急著教訓他,而是冷靜的接著問他
第四個問題:“那你覺得有些什麼辦法?”
在這個階段,不妨跟孩子一起做腦力激盪,想各種點子,合理的、不合理的、荒唐的、可笑的、噁心的、幼稚的……腦力激蕩的重點就是允許任何看似無稽的想法。這時候不論聽到什麼,都暫時不要做批評或判斷。
等到再也想不出任何點子的時候,就可以問他
第五個問題:“這些方法的後果會怎樣?”
讓孩子自己一一檢視,每個方法的後果會是什麼?你可能會很訝異的發現,大部分的孩子都明白事情的後果。如果他的認知有差距,這時候就可以跟他好好討論,讓他明白現實真相。這是一個很好的親子溝通機會,但是要避免說教,只要陳述事實就可以了。
然後問他:“你決定怎麼做?”
孩子一定會選擇對自己最有利的狀況,如果他了解後果,通常會做出最合理、最明智的選擇。即使他的抉擇不是成人期望的結果,也要尊重孩子的決定。成人一定要 言而有信,不能先問他怎麼決定,然後又告訴他不可以這麼決定。這樣子,他以後再也不敢信任你了。何況,就算他選擇錯誤,他從這個錯誤中也可以學習到更珍貴 難忘的教訓。
接著問第七個問題:“你希望我做什麼?” 並且表示支持。
等到事情過去之後,問他最後
第八個問題:“結果怎樣?有沒有如你所料?”
或是“下次碰見相似的情形,你會怎麼選擇?”

讓他有機會檢視自己的判斷。
如此練習幾次,孩子就會有自己解決問題的能力,不需要我們操心了

經典八問:
第一個問題是:“發生什麼事情了?”
第二個問題是:“你的感覺如何?”
第三個問題:“你想要怎樣?”
第四個問題:“那你覺得有些什麼辦法?”
第五個問題:“這些方法的後果會怎樣?”
第六個問題:“你決定怎麼做?”
第七個問題:“你希望我做什麼?”
第八個問題:“結果怎樣?有沒有如你所料?”
或是“下次碰見相似的情形,你會怎麼選擇..........

2013年4月21日

APEGBE job tips

http://www.apeg.bc.ca/services/employmentcentre/jobseekers.php
Job Search  
90% of finding a job is preparation. Your preparation includes LMI research, self-assessment, and career development. The remainder is job-search. In many cases, your preparation and your job-search will overlap. For example, you may begin your job-search while you are upgrading your skills. You may also find that you get a job through an information interview. However, the more prepared you are, the more likely you are to have success in your job-search.
Job-Search Skills
There are thousands of websites to provide you with the job-search information and skills you need. Pay close attention to the advice and work hard on:
  • Cover Letter: Make sure it is well-written and is customized to the employer. It should tell the employer why he or she should hire you.
  • Resume: Customize your resume to what the employer is looking for. Stick to two pages - it is an introduction only and does not have to provide all of the details of your career.
  • Business Card: Give everyone you meet a business card. You never know when your card might fall into the right hands.
  • Portfolio: Employers like to see actual work you have done. A portfolio is particularly helpful if your English is not very good.
  • Self-marketing: In completing the Career Development and Job Search Plan, you have identified the skills that you are very good at. Make sure you tell employers that you are good at these skills.
  • Networking: It is a fact that most people get jobs through networking. Build your network and stay in touch with the people you meet.
  • Dropping in and Cold Calling: Make sure you speak with the person that is responsible for hiring; this is not usually the human resources staff person. Know a lot about the company and make sure it is a good fit for you before you make contact.
  • Interview and Meeting Skills: Employers make decisions based on meeting you. This is your opportunity to show them what you have to offer.
Your job-search is your opportunity to impress a potential employer. Use the tools above to show potential employers that you have the technical, professional practice, cultural, employability and communication skills, confidence and positive attitude they are looking for. Here are a few websites to get you started on preparing the tools and developing the skills you will need for a successful job-search:
Finding Potential Employers
Your LMI research skills will point you to potential employers. When you look for employment opportunities, don't forget to check the Employment Center on APEGBC's website.
Help with your Career Development and Job-Search
Your best resources for help are your fellow engineers and geoscientists, networks of internationally trained engineers and geoscientists and career counsellors. APEGBC provides some resources which may be helpful. These have been mentioned throughout these webpages and include such things as posting job openings, offering courses and publishing Innovation magazine. However, APEGBC's mandate does not include providing guidance on career development and job-search. Instead, APEGBC's resources are focused on protecting public health, welfare and safety by providing its core services of licensing, professional practice support, and discipline and enforcement. At this time, APEGBC is devoting significant resources to ensuring that licensure is accessible to ITEGs through a review of its policies and procedures and participation in the national project "From Consideration to Integration".
A Final Note
You do not have to be working in engineering or geoscience to feel like an engineer or geoscientist and fully participate in the community. As you work your way through your career development and job-search, become immersed in your profession. Get involved. Learn everything you can about engineering and geoscience in BC. Go to networking events and attend seminars. Join technical associations and networks of other internationally trained engineers and geoscientists. Talk to every engineer and geoscientist you meet. In short, build your passion for your profession. An engineering or geoscience employer will recognize your knowledge, skills and passion and offer you your first engineering or geoscience job in BC.
APEGBC staff and members wish you every success. Welcome to BC and good luck!
First-Hand Advice
From the Pilot Project Management Team:
  • Entry-level positions are rarely advertised but companies are always looking for talented people.
  • Engineering firms are not interested in advertising these positions because the most important attributes that they are looking for are best exemplified if they [job-seekers] market themselves, meet employers while networking or drop-in on a company unannounced.
  • Companies will not normally send a letter or e-mail acknowledging that they have received your resume. Sometimes, companies will send a form letter stating that they will keep your resume on file. In this case, do not think that you will get an interview later. You will not normally hear from the employer again unless you follow up and stay in contact.
  • It's the combination of skills - technical, non-technical 'soft' and business - that ITEs need to work as engineers in Canada.
From Employers, Professional Engineers and Technologists:
  • Be willing to travel and work on sites.  
  • Demonstrate initiative, motivation and interest in meeting people.   Employers prefer that you drop in at a company office or meet engineer employers at networking meetings.
  • Engineers should not assume they would be able to get back into engineering through a drafting or other technical job that uses some of their engineering skills and knowledge.
  • There are many potential job opportunities for people with AutoCAD skills (e.g. a manufacturing warehouse that uses AutoCAD Land Desktop to make revisions; a furniture warehouse that uses CAD for layout work).
  • Employers will look for someone who will be loyal and stay with the company for at least three or five years.   The first year on the job requires training the employee.   An employer doesn't make money from a new employee, so they will be very careful of who they will invest their time and effort in.
  • Develop your network.   Become established in the engineering circle, find out what is happening and take an interest in it.
  • When you go to a job interview, take your references and your portfolio with you.
  • Consulting companies like people with hands-on experience (e.g. in construction).
  • Find out what a company does before making contact.   Most internationally trained engineers do not research the companies they approach.
  • Develop high quality resumes and use cover letters that are custom designed with appropriate information for each company and well presented.
  • Always send a cover letter with your resume.   The letter should be one page and the resume should be two pages at the most.  
  • Do not include every project or job in your resume.   Use the resume to summarize and highlight your experience.   Most resumes repeat the same information (e.g. five 20 story buildings are listed but only one needs to be mentioned).   State how you were involved in the project and what your responsibilities/achievements were.  
  • The resume should clearly state the position you are seeking.   For example, if you are applying for a structural engineering job, do not state civil engineering as your career objective - state structural engineering.
  • Construction is a strong sector.   There is a demand for construction safety officers, foreman, estimators, project coordinators, project managers and superintendents.
  • Municipalities and other government offices usually like to hire experienced engineers.   Some offices will only hire a person with previous local experience.  
  • There are some opportunities for technician jobs in municipalities.
  • Employers have said the right person does not have to be a registered professional engineer (P.Eng.).
  • Most engineering companies hire people in the spring.   They do not hire in November and December.
  • People coming from other countries need to market themselves better.
  • You are judged by how you dress.   Wear business clothes to an interview (e.g. suit/jacket and tie).
From Internationally Trained Engineers:
  • Get whatever job you can get within a large organization where opportunities exist and work your way up.    [Tip:   You will have a chance to prove your abilities if you take a related technical job rather than taking any position]
  • Customize your resume to match the job requirements.   [Tip:   Include specific skills and qualities that the employer is looking for]
  • Be creative and flexible in marketing your skills.
  • Pick up the phone and call people.  
  • Go to construction companies or job sites first thing in the morning and ask to meet with the project manager.
  • Do not wait for a personal letter or reply to a job inquiry.   Call or visit the company office to find out the status of your job application or resume submission.   [Tip:   Do not wait more than two weeks]
  • Be willing to accept short-term contract work.
  • The "Drop in" procedure sounds OK if you have the "door to door" salesman spirit. It is going to be hard.
  • The telephone never rings; you have to call.
Career Development and Job-Search Plan
Open your Career Development and Job-Search Document and go to the LMI Worksheet. Using the information and links provided here and elsewhere, answer the questions in the LMI-SKILL AREA "Job-Search Skills" section.
Next, go to the Skills Self-Assessment Worksheet and rate your ability in the "Job-Search Skills " section. It is essential that you are honest with yourself when completing this self-assessment. If you are not honest in answering these questions, your Career Development and Job-Search Plan will not be a useful tool for you.
Finally, go to the Skills Summary Worksheet and follow the instructions there. Complete the "Job-Search Skills" section.
Do not forget to work on the Potential Employers Worksheet If you have not already started to do so.

2013年4月7日

Networking: It's more than sharing meatballs

Singularities

Networking: It's more than sharing meatballs


Career consultant Alaina Levine offers practical advice on how to build and use professional networks.


April 3, 2013
Published: April 3, 2013
By Alaina G. Levine
Networking is the most powerful tool you have in your career-planning kit. It is the secret to finding hidden opportunities; it establishes and solidifies your value in the minds of decision-makers; it opens doors to hitherto unknown people, alliances, and information. The bottom line? Networking secures jobs and advances careers.
But the challenge of networking is that most people don’t know what it is or how to do it.
Some, though surely not you, dear reader, think that “networking” is a finite action that takes place at an event, like a conference. They meet a professional at a mixer, and they partake of a witty quip and a meatball or two. When 10 minutes have elapsed and they can’t think of anything else to discuss, they excuse themselves and go!—the requisite networking is complete for the week (or year). They don’t follow up with the professional; in fact, in many cases, they never speak with him or her again.
What is the outcome of this brand of “networking”? Absolutely nothing—no new information, no new career opportunity, and no new potential collaboration. They may wonder why the interaction didn’t help them achieve anything. And they go back to applying for jobs advertised on the internet and banging their heads against the wall.
The truth is that networking is not a one-time meeting. Networking is:
  • a spectrum of activities . . .
  • which begins with a first interaction . . .
  • aims for a mutually beneficial partnership . . .
  • involves myriad correspondence and actions that provide value to each party . . .
  • and ends only when one or both of you drop dead.
Once you recognize these basic principles, you can begin to craft a networking strategy that will help realize your career ambitions.
Like many aspects of professional planning, your networking scheme should include its own objectives, activities to pursue, milestones, timelines, and deadlines. But before you launch your program, take care not to make these common mistakes:
Mistake Number 1: “I won’t network with people outside my field. Doing so is a waste of time.”
I read just such advice on Linkedin recently. The author encouraged young scientists to interact only with other scientists, which he rationalized with the example that a plumber could never help you in your career.
To my mind, this is faulty logic. You should interact with people in and outside of your field, industry, and even geography as much as possible because anyone can provide you with ideas, information, and inspiration that advances your career. Your acquaintance doesn’t have to be an academician in physics to help you solve a physics problem or land a job in higher education.
This kind of strategic thinking has aided me many times. Once, while sitting in the middle seat of an airplane, I listened to the people on either side of me discuss plans for approaching editors. My science writer ears perked up and I interrupted their conversation to introduce myself. “Are you in journalism?” I asked. No, they responded, they were in public policy for the nuclear regulatory industry.
At that time, nuclear science wasn’t even on my career radar as a potential field for collaboration. But once I got them talking about their passion for the field and understood exactly what they did, the three of us recognized an opportunity to partner on a project. They told me about a nuclear science conference that occurs in my state every year, and I was able to convert that tip into real work.
You have only to start a conversation to learn what skills you both could provide. So aim for inclusivity in your conversations. And remember the theory of six degrees of separation: the more people you know, the more people you have access to.
Mistake Number 2: “I will network in order to extract something from someone else.”
The foundation of networking is building strong collaborations that provide value to both individuals. Of course you need a job, but the other person needs things too, like connections with other potential partners, career leads, or ideas about funding sources. You should seek to craft an alliance based not on grabbing what you can from each other, but rather on learning how to ensure that the relationship continues to harness both of your specific values.
Early-career professionals should offer to be of assistance, even if they don’t immediately see a potential return on the investment (ROI). It’s surprising how much others appreciate the offer of help and how immediately such a proposal can solidify a relationship. I once read an article in a trade magazine that I especially enjoyed and contacted the author to discuss it.
At the end of our conversation, I asked her to contact me in the future if I could help her in any way. “Even if I am not the right person,” I said, “I will find the right person or resource for you.” She expressed gratitude, and what’s more, she soon followed up with me. That one gesture started a partnership that has lasted more than a decade, and led to the development of mature networks for both of us.
Mistake Number 3: “I can’t network because I don’t have time.”
The tragicomical paradox is that networking practically a full-time job in and of itself, which you must pursue while also juggling the full-time job of career development and the other full-time job of scientist. So you have three full-time jobs and no parallel universes or time machines at your disposal. While it is true that networking takes time, it is time well spent: I can almost guarantee that resources you devote to networking will provide a substantial ROI.
A smart way to get started is to recognize that there are two kinds of networking: active and passive. Active networkers purposefully seek out others to meet and with whom to connect. This may occur at conferences, symposia and journal clubs, or through reading papers and contacting authors.
Passive networkers interact with those with whom they cross paths. This could happen at any event, including those not related to science, such as philanthropic, pastime, or community activities.
My favorite kind of passive networking occurs on airplanes. You are trapped approximately three nanometers away from this guy for hours, so you might as well make the best of it. Strike up a conversation (as long as he’s not drunk.) From passively networking with people on planes, I have gained surprising knowledge about my industry, developed partnerships with new colleagues, and even landed a few gigs.
Don’t underestimate the use of social networks like LinkedIn for both active and passive networking. LinkedIn is starting to become a standard for hiring people—in fact, one industry decision-maker told me that the resumé is becoming obsolete and the LinkedIn profile is taking its place. Consider creating a free profile on LinkedIn and join groups relevant to your ambitions. (In a future article I will go into detail about how to leverage your social media presence for effective networking and career planning.)
Mistake Number 4: “I can’t network effectively because I am a shy, albeit rather good-looking, physicist.”
Efficient networking, where you are able to build long-term partnerships, takes practice. You don’t have to be an extrovert to network, and even outgoing personalities (and seasoned networkers) sometimes have butterflies in their stomachs when they first approach a stranger at a mixer. But the more practice you get at introducing yourself to others, the more adept and more comfortable you will become.
At networking affairs, one of my favorite opening lines is “what’s the best part of your job?” As the other person recounts what is pleasurable about her work, she will be more apt to speak with me about it. One of the keys to networking is that people generally love speaking about themselves. So the more you ask contacts about themselves and what drives them, the better you are able to start a beneficial relationship. As they speak, remain in eye contact. As people chat, I like to jot down a few notes on the back of their business cards. When I follow up later, I remember (and can remind them) of key points in our conversation.
So at the next APS Meeting, don’t be a wallflower and don’t let fear get the best of you. Just catch someone’s eye and launch a discussion. Remember—they are there to network too. And to scarf meatballs.
Alaina G. Levine is a science and engineering writer, career consultant, and professional speaker and comedian. Her new book on networking strategies for scientists and engineers will be published by Wiley in 2014. She can be reached through her website or on Twitter at @AlainaGLevine.

2013年3月24日

Physical scientists can do anything: Here's how you start your career planning

http://www.physicstoday.org/daily_edition/singularities/physical_scientists_can_do_anything_here_s_how_you_start_your_career_planning?goback=%2Egde_2075027_member_225219760


Physical scientists can do anything: Here's how you start your career planning

Venturing outside the world of academic physics to look for a job is not as daunting as you might think.

March 21, 2013
Published: March 21, 2013
By Alaina G. Levine
I once had an adviser outline available career options for someone, like me, with a bachelors in mathematics. Other than my becoming a professor or teacher, or going into actuarial studies (calculating insurance tables), he intimated there was nothing I could do with my math degree. Nothing—as in zero career opportunities. He advised me to go to grad school and give in to academia.
At the time, I was shocked and dismayed, but in the end I ignored his advice. Instead I launched into science communications and have since crafted an intellectually stimulating career, anchored by my love of science, at the crossroads of writing, professional speaking, career consulting, and even event planning (so if you have a wedding that needs to be arranged, please tweet me). I consider myself lucky: I was able to figure out that people with science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) degrees have n career options, where n is significantly greater than zero and in fact, theoretically approaches infinity
So how do you find these careers, access them, and assess whether they are right for you? To begin, you have to understand how much value you have as a professional with an education in the physical sciences, whether you are just graduating, completing your postdoc, or have been working for 10–15 years. Most physical scientists think their only value lies in the subject of their expertise: I am a physicist, therefore I can only do physics. And although is it absolutely true that you have great talent in conducting physics research, you have much more to offer potential employers. You have highly coveted skills that you gained simply as a byproduct of studying physics or other STEM fields. As a result of your schooling, you are
  • An exceptional problem solver who can see and solve puzzles both granulistically and holistically and in many dimensions.
  • An amazing critical thinker who can analyze and imagine situations and scenarios with a 360 degree perspective.
  • A talented project manager who can multi-task on diverse teams with great aplomb.
  • An adaptive and flexible worker.
  • A person who is knowledgeable about how the physical world works. and how to apply that knowledge to solve problems in new realms.

Problem-solving is the most important skill anyone has. In fact, when you are hired for any job, as a professor, a president, or a custodian, you are hired to solve problems. And if there is one thing physical scientists excel in, it is solving problems.
To find the career of your dreams, you have to examine the unique problem-solving capabilities that define your value and then start thinking about how you can use those skills in other industries besides academia. This is not an easy task; it takes extensive self-exploration and external research, networking and informational interviews, time, and even more self-analysis. But know this: The investment you make in discovering your unique value and being able to articulate it to career decision makers will pay off. You will find not only one career option that gels with your interests, goals, and values, but rather n options, where n is much, much greater than 0.
So here’s how you start: Conduct a skill inventory. Make a list of all the experiences you have had—jobs, research assistantships, teaching assistantships, volunteer experiences, committee assignments, and even the part-time jobs that are far outside your discipline. Write down all the technical and scientific skills you gained from each experience. Next, think about the business and soft skills you learned in those same experiences. It may seem strange to think that you’ve acquired, and even mastered, hard business skills from studying the physical sciences, but you have, and they are treasured by employers. Here’s an abbreviated list of the business talents you may already possess:
  • Oral and written communications (including your fabulous Power Point presentations).
  • Project management.
  • Grant and proposal writing.
  • Teambuilding and conflict resolution.
  • Risk management and safety assessment (as in ensuring the safety of yourself and your team in the lab).
  • Marketing (as in convincing your colleagues that your work is significant).

The final action is to try to remember what you loved and, more importantly, what you hated about each experience. That task will help you concretely see not only what you are talented in but also what types of problems you enjoy solving and what ecosystems you enjoy solving them in. And since your career options are great—even if you don’t realize it yet—by determining what you have hated about your diverse experiences, you can begin to put boundaries on what types of career opportunities you should pursue.
The skill inventory is one tool that we will explore with these career articles as we chart a course for you to access, assess, and land your dream job. Once you realize your extensive value by conducting the skill inventory, your next step will be to start looking for opportunities that match the skills you enjoy utilizing, your interests, and your values. In future articles, we will discuss the specific steps to finding these opportunities. Here’s a hint to get you started: It’s all about networking.
If you have suggestions for future column ideas, please send them my way. I am committed to opening your eyes to an entire new world of career opportunities that are yours for the taking—simply because you chose to study physical science and recognize that zero is never an acceptable variable.
Alaina G. Levine is a science and engineering writer, career consultant, and professional speaker and comedian. She can be reached through her website or on Twitter at @AlainaGLevine. She thanks Jim Crandall for help with this article.

Three best tips for job seeking students

http://www.linkedin.com/groups/Give-me-your-three-best-2075027.S.225521010?view=&gid=2075027&type=member&item=225521010&trk=eml-anet_dig-b_nd-pst_ttle-cn

Give me your three best tips for job seeking students- form Amina Sonnie at the Univ of AZ Career Services
Amina asked different companies at the UA Engineering Career Fair for their three best tips:

IBM
· Carefully read the company web site and job description for the keywords they use; if you have those skills be sure the words are used on your resume and in your interview
· During the interview show enthusiasm, look employer in the eyes, illustrate your communication skills with well thought out answers
· “Tell me about a time you helped someone” Did you help a peer, coworker who may not have understood a work or school assignment and you helped to bring them up to speed? Did you have a project that was frustrating and sought help from someone? It’s an asset to know that if someone needs your help you’ll do the best you can or if you need help that you will feel comfortable asking.

Doe Run
· Use as many resources as possible in your job search – not just one source.
· Get as many internship opportunities as you can while in college
· Start looking in your freshman year for that first summer internship…don’t put it off until your junior year

NASA (2 representatives answered)
· Start looking for internships in your freshman and certainly sophomore year
· Ask questions at info sessions and in the interview
· Know what interests and projects the company has – read their web site
· On your resume list every software skill you have (ProE is used extensively at NASA)
· List your hobbies related to engineering (build computers, work on motorcycles/cars, created an app, etc.)
· Be able to show and/or articulate your resourcefulness – in a job, class, club function, etc.

Technip
· Do research on the company before the interview or presentation
· Have an easy to read resume tailored to the interest of that industry or company
· Explain jobs you’ve had; don’t use simple sentences that don’t give the reader an idea of what you did in a job or project “I don’t want to have to guess”

Honeywell
· Show confidence in the interview and practice interviewing
· On your resume and in the interview show your specific skills and experiences
· Show enthusiasm at a job fair, presentation or in the interview

General Motors
· During the interview be authentic; use “I” when talking about projects (not only “we”)
· Resume – a one page relevant resume, GPA at the top, crisp clear career objective
· Job search – do your homework, apply online and do the follow-up; keep positive

2013年2月26日

What To Do When You Don't Hear Back After A Job Interview

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/02/20/what-to-do-when-you-dont-hear-back-after-a-job-interview/?goback=%2Egde_2075027_member_216378671

You finally landed that coveted job interview. Maybe you aced it; perhaps you flopped. Either way, you send a thank you note and check your inbox compulsively for a week, waiting not-so-patiently for some sort of response. But you hear nothing.
This happens far too often.
According to a new CareerBuilder study among 3,991 employees, 60% said they’ve experienced this as a job candidate.
Why is this so common?
“Sadly, many times it is simple rudeness that is present when a candidate never gets a response after a job interview,” says HR expert Steve Kane. “This should never happen at a sophisticated, progressive employer. Obviously, if someone is going through the effort of preparing for an interview, they deserve some idea of their likelihood of receiving an offer.”
Sometimes employers get overwhelmed with the communication process, says Amy Hoover, president of Talent Zoo, a site for marketing, advertising, and digital professionals. “It’s not fair and it’s not professional, but it’s reality.”

David Parnell, a legal consultant, communication coach and author, says there are generally three primary ingredients to the radio silence an interviewee experiences after their meeting, assuming we are talking about a savvy employer. “One, ‘he’s just not that into you,’” he says. “Two, bandwidth is precious and needs to be spent on more pressing issues, like more competitive candidates. And three, the potential risk for providing specific, negative feedback is much higher than the potential reward.”
Employers, like most other humans, “are self-interested and rational,” he adds. If they desire a candidate, they will pursue them with fervor; if they do not, they won’t. “And while they are otherwise occupied with the candidates they covet, telling others that they won’t be pursuing them and why is not only uncomfortable (for all parties), it potentially exposes them to legal action,” he says. “As a result, often times mum’s the word.”
Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and author of Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant, offers another explanation. “Unemployment is still relatively high, and many companies are deluged with candidates,” she says. “The short-term-oriented thinking is that candidates are in abundance, so we can save on labor costs by only responding to A-list candidates. The scales are still tipped in favor of the employer, and unfortunately as a result, many do not allocate the resources necessary to respond to each job candidate.”
Given the breakneck pace of a thin staff today, it’s not uncommon to hear back a few weeks later from a prospective employer, after you’ve given up the fight, she says. “Vacations, hiring freezes, restructurings, resignations, and project status changes can all affect if and when you hear back from an employer.”
In Pictures: 10 Things to Do When You Don’t Hear Back After a Job Interview
But candidates deserve to hear back—even if the news is negative. As it turns out, following up is beneficial to both parties in the long run (even if it’s awkward and uncomfortable at the time).
The CareerBuilder survey found that the effects of a candidate’s negative experience can lead to a broader impact on the employer’s business or its ability to recruit top talent.
Forty-two percent of workers said they would never seek employment with the company again if they were displeased with the way their application was handled. Another 22% said they would tell others not to work there; and 9% would tell others not to purchase products or services from the company.
“When the labor market tightens once again, and employers are avidly searching to fill critical spots, they may look back at such practices and wish they had been more responsive,” Taylor says. “Even a template letter of acknowledgment is better than no response. Job applicants have long memories, and it may be difficult to acquire that same quality talent later if candidates are not treated well now.”
Kane agrees. He says employers will always be looking for new talent, and if a job seeker has the choice to work for an employer who is known for showing respect for job candidates versus one that does not, candidates will likely choose the employer that operates respectfully.
“Most employers are very concerned with their reputations,” he adds. “Not providing feedback to job candidates is a reflection on their entire management process. Especially in these days when social media can play such an important role, being discourteous to job applicants makes virtually no sense.”
Why do candidates want feedback, even if it’s negative?
Dr. Sanja Licina, PhD and Senior Director of Talent Intelligence at CareerBuilder, says candidates don’t want to remain in a state of anticipation, wondering if they’re still in the running. “Not only do they want to close the loop, but they often would like to hear feedback from the employer and see if they could be considered for opportunities down the line.”
Parnell agrees. “In my experience, a candidate’s drive to gain definitive feedback is usually rooted in a psychological need for closure.”
Plus—any feedback after an interview can help the candidate better prepare for the next interview, Hoover says. “It can even allow the candidate to learn more about himself and his strengths.”
How long do you wait before you do something?
Determining the appropriate wait time before soliciting feedback begins with the interview itself, Parnell says. “Be sure to determine, specifically, the next steps in the process prior to closing the meeting. This way, you have an idea as to when the employer should respond, and if they don’t, when you should mobilize a more proactive approach.”
Kane concurs. “At the end of an interview cycle, it is perfectly reasonable for a candidate to ask when they might expect a response from the employer. That sets up a perfect opportunity to follow up with the employer if feedback is delayed much beyond the date given.” Understand that hiring managers are doing many more things than simply interviewing, and often times estimates of response time tend to be very optimistic, he adds.


Here are 10 things you can do if you don’t hear back within (or shortly after) the time frame determined during the interview:
Take the initiative. Don’t just twiddle your thumbs and wait. Do something.
“In today’s market, it behooves job candidates to take the bull by the horns and follow-up,” Taylor says. “The squeaky (not screechy) wheel gets the grease. Nudge, don’t pester.”
She says when the timeline expires, wait a few days then write a “check-in” e-mail to your primary contact showing your continued interest. “Just make sure to offer something of value to the hiring manager in the e-mail, such as a link to an industry or competitive firm-related article, interesting blog, LinkedIn discussion or upcoming industry event.”
Hoover agrees. “If your initial follow-up message is tailored to the timeline you were given in an interview, you will come across as professional, prompt, and courteous. If you wait too long it could show a perceived lack of interest.”
Make a plan. Parnell says if you call and e-mail too much, you become both annoying and desperate; if you don’t follow up enough, you communicate disrespect and a lack of interest. “It is important to be formulaic with your attempts by setting a schedule and sticking to it. Only allow yourself a particular number of attempts over the course of a limited time. If you get your feedback, great; if you don’t, move on–period.”
Be gracious. Always be pleasant in your e-mail or phone correspondence, even if you’re annoyed with the employer, Taylor says. Maybe they’re still in the process of interviewing candidates and haven’t yet made a decision. Or perhaps they think you’d be a better fit for a different position within the organization, and plan to contact you when it becomes available. “Your level of professionalism will be remembered,” Taylor says. “It’s often how you handle setbacks that set you apart from the rest.”

Check your social network for connections. Check Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter for former colleagues or friends who currently work at the company, Hoover says. “If you discover a connection, try to solicit an endorsement from the person or at a minimum, try to find out the status of the hire and where they are in the process.”
Always gauge the responses to your outreach efforts before your next move. This begins with your real-time interview feedback, Taylor says. “If it’s a warm reception, then the door’s open for you to further engage. If it’s chilly at best, don’t waste a lot of time with serial badgering. Oftentimes no answer is an answer.”
Move up the chain. “While I have a healthy respect for HR and internal recruiters, when it comes to business acumen, sometimes they are a mixed bag,” Parnell says. “If you find that you’re unable to get a response from them after a material number of attempts, move up the food chain. In my endeavors, I’ve found that the higher up you go, the more respect you’ll find for the interviewee.” Reaching out (directly) to the person you’d actually be working for can often reinvigorate the process, or at least bring it to a close.
Follow your gut and be realistic. “Rejection is psychologically traumatizing; in fact, it has been proven to cause physical pain,” Parnell says. “It shouldn’t be a surprise that our minds are equipped with powerful mechanisms such as rationalizations to nullify its affects: ‘Maybe they didn’t get my last 37 emails.’ ‘I’ll bet they left the country this month and don’t have phone service.’ Rationalizations like these can serve to keep us pushing forward when we should be searching elsewhere. Follow your gut – it usually knows the answer.”
Taylor agrees. She says when an employer hasn’t responded to a couple of your follow-ups, or won’t take your call, don’t become a pest. “Read between the lines of a ‘no.’ Industry circles are small and you have better things to do than get a reputation of desperation. Do yourself a favor and move on with your work life putting all that energy into a positive, worthy pursuit.”
Keep the employer up to date. As other activity manifests throughout the process, be sure to inform the employer of your progress in your follow-up correspondence, Parnell says. “Rather than calling them with ‘gimme, gimme, gimme,’ by offering them tangential, employer-related information that might facilitate their process, you will remind them that you are still in the hunt without sounding self-serving.”
Don’t take it personally. “For all you know, the job may have been reduced in responsibility, salary, timeframe, or even eliminated,” Taylor says. “Most companies do not want to broadcast that kind of news to the public and opt for the safer route, which is to say nothing. You have marketable skills, and one job (the right one) is all you need.”
Let this experience tell you about the company. The post-interview process doesn’t always directly reflect the corporate culture—but it can, Hoover says. You’ll want to remember this if they ever reach out in the future, or if you decide to apply for another position down the road.
“Keep in mind that getting no response from an employer after you have followed up can be one more data point as to whether you really want to work for the company,” Taylor says. “How you’re treated after the interview could be indicative of how you’d be managed once on the job.” If you’ve put all the pieces together and just don’t get a good feeling about working for them, go with your gut. “You might consider their lack of action a gift or preview–and a sign to move quickly to greener pastures.”
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Here are 10 things you should never do:
Never offer a self-imposed deadline without due cause. If you have some legitimate reason–moving to the area by a certain date, receiving a promotion (at your current job) that may be accepted in lieu of an offer, an impending placement on an assignment, etc.–this flies in the world of interviewing. However, demanding an answer by the end of the week or else, does not, Parnell says.
Never lie. Any outright lie, especially one that seems implausible, will crush your chances with this employer, Kane says.
Never attempt to communicate with a hiring manager through their personal e-mail, home address, cell phone or telephone.
Never criticize the company on social media. “Unlike using your social network for good, do not give into the temptation of calling a company out on their lack of response to you,” Hoover says.
Never complain to the employer about your frustration with them.
Never call or e-mail relentlessly. Leaving three un-returned messages is a social and professional faux pas, Parnell says. “While it is reasonable for an employer to miss or forget about a single phone message, missing or forgetting a second is terribly unlikely.”
Never call on back-to-back days. Hoover says this will become a hassle for the interviewer and rather than showing your continued interest, it might tell them that you’re not aware of boundaries.
Never try gimmicks, like dropping off a shoe at the reception desk because you’re trying to “get your foot in the door.”
Never stop by with more information in the hopes that you’ll gain points for enthusiasm.
Never bribe or kiss up. You want to win the job out of merit and self-confidence, not out of ill-attempted forms of schmoozing or flattery, Taylor says.
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2013年2月16日

李嘉誠教你五年內買車買房

(from internet)

假設你的月收入只有2000元,你也可以過得很好。我幫你把錢分
成五份。第一份600元,第二份400元,第三份300元,第四份200元,第五份500元。

第一份,用來做生活費。這麼少的生活費,每天只能夠分到十幾元。早餐一份煮米絲,一個雞蛋,一杯豆漿。中餐一份快餐,一個水果。晚餐自己開個小灶,煮點飯,加倆菜,睡前一杯奶。這樣一月的伙食大概是500-600。不過,如果你還年輕,身體暫時還沒有太多問題,這樣的食譜,夠你數年內不會有健康問題。

第二份,用來交朋友,擴大你的人際圈。這就寬裕了。你的電話費可以用掉100元。每個月可以請客兩次,每次150元。請誰呢?記住,請比你有思想的人,比你更有錢的人,和你需要感激的人。

每個月,堅持請客,一年下來,你的朋友圈應該已經為你產生價值了,你的聲望、影響力、附加價值正在提升,形象又好,又大方。

第三份,用來學習。每個月可以有50元—100元用來買書。錢不多,買的書就要認真閱讀,學會學了就用的精神。每一本書,看完後,就把它變成自己的語言講給別人聽,與人分享可以提高你的信譽度,並且,提升親和力。另外的200元存起來,每一個月參加一次培訓。從不間斷。等收入高一些了,或者有額外的積蓄,就參加更高級的培訓。參加好的培訓,既可以免費結交志同道合的朋友,又可以學習平時難以領悟的道理。

第四份,用於旅遊,一年獎勵自己旅游至少一次。生命的成長來自不斷地歷練。參加那種自由行的旅遊,住進青年旅社,地球其實並不大,每年都出門,幾年下來,就可以把紅旗插到地圖上,許多美好的回憶,成為生命的動力,更加有熱情和能量,去投入工作。

第五份,用來投資。先存起來,也可以用來做進貨的本錢,小本生意很安全,去批發點產品來賣,虧了反正也不多,賺呢,既賺了金錢,又賺了自信和膽量,還賺來做事情的閱歷。賺的錢多了,就可以開始購買長期的投資計劃,使自己提早獲得一份長久的保障,保證自己和家人在將來,不論發生什麼事情,都有一份充足的資金來照顧,生活品質不會下降。

好了,這樣熬了一年,第二年如果你還在拿2000元的收入,那就是你的不是了,這麼不長進,活著也夠丟臉的,看看有什麼品牌的豆腐比較硬,買一點來,用頭去撞吧。

月收入在3000元以下的,一定要兼職賺錢,不要窮,還很有個性,挑三揀四的,這個不願意做,那個沒有興趣。收入不高,一定要非常勤奮,盡量去找跟銷售有關的工作,銷售等。這就是很不錯的兼職工作,既可以認識很多有價值的人,又可以鍛煉自己的信息收集能力和營銷技巧。

衣服啊,鞋子啊,這一年你是得盡量少買了。最好全部通過你的兼職賺的錢去買。當作獎勵自己的一種方式。額外多賺錢的時候,記得買個禮物給你的愛人,謝謝他/她支持你的財務計劃。很坦誠地告訴他/她,為何你那麼勤儉,告訴他/她你的夢想和努力的方向。

到處都有需要幫助的生意人,兼職幫他們做點事情,去磨練自己的意志、口才、和工作能力吧,加上你的理財技巧,第二年,你的收入至少要增加到5000元。最低也應該是3000元,否則你收入的成長還趕不上通貨膨脹呢。

無論你的收入是多少,記得分成五份。增加對身體的投資,讓身體始終好用,增加對社交的投資,擴大你的人脈,增加對學習的投資,加強你的自信,增加對旅遊的投資,擴大你的見聞,增加對未來的投資,增加你的收益。

保持這種平衡,逐漸你就會開始有大量的盈餘。這是一個良性循環的人生計劃。身體將越來越好,得到更多的營養和照顧。朋友會越來越多,存儲許多有價值的人脈關係,同時,你也有條件參加那些非常高端的培訓,使自己各方面的羽翼豐滿,思維寬闊,格局廣大,性格和諧。而你,也就能夠逐漸實現自己的各種夢想,購買自己的需要的房子、車子,並且給未來的孩子準備一筆充足的教育基金。

人生是可以設計的,生涯是可以規劃的,幸福是可以準備的。現在就可以開始。在你窮的時候,要少在家裡,多在外面。在你富有的時候,要多在家裡,少在外面。這就是生活的藝術。窮得時候,錢要花給別人,富的時候,錢要花給自己。很多人,都做顛倒了。

窮得時候,不要計較,對別人要好。富的時候,要學會讓別人對自己好。自己對自己更好。窮要把自己貢獻出去,盡量讓別人利用。富,要把自己收藏好,小心別讓別人隨便利用。這些奇妙的生活方式,是很少人能夠明白的。

窮的時候,花錢給別人看。富的時候,花錢給自己享受。窮的時候一定要大方,富的時候,就不要擺闊了。生命已經恢復了簡單,已經回到了寧靜。

年輕不是過錯,貧窮無需害怕。懂得培養自己,懂得什麼是貴重物品,懂得該投資什麼,懂得該在哪裡節約,這是整個過程的關鍵。別亂買衣服,少買一點,但是可以買幾件很有品味的。少在外面吃飯,要吃就請客,要請,就請比自己更有夢想的、更有思想、更努力的人。

一旦生活需要的錢已經夠了,最大的花費,就是用你的收入,完成你的夢想,去放開你的翅膀大膽地做夢,去讓生命經歷不一樣的旅程。

【經典語錄】

哈佛有一個著名的理論:人的差別在於業餘時間,而一個人的命運決定於晚上8點到10點之間。每晚抽出2個小時的時間用來閱讀、進修、思考或參加有意的演講、討論,你會發現,你的人生正在發生改變,堅持數年之後,成功會向你招手。

無論你的收入是多少,記得分成五份進行規劃投資:增加對身體的投資,讓身體始終好用;增加對社交的投資,擴大你的人脈;增加對學習的投資,加強你的自信;增加對旅遊的投資,擴大你的見聞;增加對未來的投資,增加你的收益。好好規劃落實,你會發現你的人生逐步會有大量盈餘。

你最後悔什麼?某雜誌對全國60歲以上的老人抽樣調查:第一名:75%的人後悔年輕時努力不夠,導致一事無成。第二名:70%的人後悔在年輕的時候選錯了職業。第三名:62%的人後悔對子女教育不當。第四名:57%的人後悔沒有好好珍惜自己的伴侶。第五名:49%的人後悔沒有善待自己的身體。

我們之所以會心累,就是常常徘徊在堅持和放棄之間,舉棋不定。我們之所以會煩惱,就是記性太好,該記的,不該記的都會留在記憶裡。我們之所以會痛苦,就是追求的太多。我們之所以不快樂,就是計較的太多,不是我們擁有的太少,而是我們計較的太多。

被人誤解的時候能微微的一笑,這是一種素養;受委屈的時候能坦然的一笑,這是一種大度;吃虧的時候能開心的一笑,這是一種豁達;無奈的時候能達觀的一笑,這是一種境界;危難的時候能泰然一笑,這是一種大氣;被輕蔑的時候能平靜的一笑,這是一種自信;失戀的時候能輕輕的一笑,這是一種灑脫。

生命中,有些人來了又去,有些人去而復返,有些人近在咫尺,有些人遠在天涯,有些人擦身而過,有些人一路同行。或許在某兩條路的盡頭相遇,結伴同行了一段路程,又在下一個分岔路口道別。無論如何,終免不了曲終人散的傷感。遠在天涯的朋友:或許已是遙遠得無法問候,但還是謝謝您曾經的結伴同行。